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The first thing I tin call up clearly was sitting in a infirmary room in the dark.

I knew something was wrong — that at that place was something wrong with me — and nevertheless, I couldn't tell exactly what. I realized the left side of my face was numb. Hanging on the wall in front of me was a television, only there was something incorrect with it too. A ghostly copy was superimposed over the standard set; information technology was rotated at roughly a 15-caste bending and faded away into the burnt cream walls. Is the Telly the problem, or is it me?

My mother and a nurse wearing scrubs entered from the left, a disorienting place outside of my field of vision.

"That's our girl," my mom said, approaching my bed. "How are you doing today?"

Why was she then nonchalant? Why wasn't she worried? Considering the haphazard inventory I had just taken, I probably should take demanded answers or cursed a bit. Raised some hell. Instead, I replied with an uncertain "… adept," slightly alarmed that she, besides, possessed a ghostly, tilted banner. When I was young, my mother always went on, at length, about the difficulties of raising my decumbent-to-tantrums, blindside-his-head-on-the-concrete-when-angry older blood brother. Then, turning to me, she'd say, "But yous, you're so piece of cake. And calm. And y'all never complain." I judge that hadn't changed. I wanted to ask her what was happening — and where I was. Instead, I swept my arm in front of me and, trying to find out what would happen next, said, "And now?"

Earlier she answered, some other character entered from the hallway, but this one I couldn't place. Fairly young — my historic period, by the look of him — his youth was accentuated by a clean-shaven chin nether total, feminine lips and a baseball cap perched precariously on his caput, above his adolescent face. He had the look of a perpetually surprised toddler, lips slightly parted in wonder and curiosity.

"Now you accept physical therapy," he commented.

The concrete therapist, a blonde woman with chin-length hair, stepped in from phase correct, clipboard in hand and a laminated badge dangling from a lanyard effectually her neck. When she entered, the nurse left, not wanting to oversupply the room.

The physical therapist pushed a rolling walker to the edge of my bed and beckoned me to rise. My initial movements were the cease-move stutter of a crude animation. I reached for i of the walker'due south handles. And missed. The double epitome layered on top of what I thought was the actual walker jutted out awkwardly in a direction that led me to believe information technology couldn't be the real one — was I wrong? I tried once more. Aye, I was incorrect.

"Are you OK? Ready to stand?" the concrete therapist asked.

Planting my feet shoulder-width apart, clinging to my walker, I clambered to a standing position — I'm generous when I use that phrase. Between my shaking limbs, bent knees and outstretched arms, I must've looked more like a member of a seniors' Pilates class than the 25-yr-former woman I presumed myself to still exist. Everything, including myself, felt familiar all the same foreign, an already-read book revisited accidentally. An eerie sense of déjà vu — my own personal uncanny valley, and so familiar but not the same.

"OK, Brooke." The physical therapist and so addressed my female parent and her companion. "We'll exist back in 45 minutes."

The therapist led me down a long hallway lined with other rooms and other patients. Every few feet, the therapist paused and waited for me to inch toward her, patiently watching with a fixed smile for the stop-motion hermit crab to scuttle closer.

"Now only a niggling further to the elevator," the therapist said, pulling me dorsum to the task at hand. I had merely discovered I was having problems multitasking: Whenever I started thinking too much, I couldn't walk.

My god, I thought, I am exhausted and we're non even where nosotros're going all the same.

When we finally reached the elevator, I stepped within, at the therapist'southward behest.

"I feel like I know you lot," my voice hissed out of my mouth similar a barely audible stream of gas. A decease rattle that made syllables and managed to form words.

At first, I wasn't sure she had heard whatsoever had escaped my pharynx. Her back, still facing me, seemed crystallized in position. Finally, she turned and looked at me for a long moment. When the elevator doors dinged close, she took a deep jiff and sighed.

"I'one thousand Linda."

"My grandpa's girlfriend has your proper name."

Linda's mouth tightened, but her eyes softened.

"I know. I've introduced myself to you lot nearly every day for the past two weeks."

50uckily, my memories started to stick after that disconcerting moment with the Telly. Unluckily, weeks had already elapsed since I had been admitted to the infirmary, some of which time I'd been comatose. I started receiving various stories about what had happened. Some true, some, I would somewhen come to realize, fiction.

Ane day, shortly subsequently I'd started to retrieve Linda the therapist, the boy with the childlike confront and childlike hat — I'll call him Stanley here — slipped into the hospital bed with me. Alarmed, but oddly conceited, I said nothing, even equally he leaned close to me and whispered into my ear, "I've been telling everyone that I'm your boyfriend."

"Yep, OK."

Hadn't this happened before? Him divulging he was my fellow … it felt familiar. How many times had this happened?

"OK," he parroted and turned to Naked and Afraid on the Tv.

"My face is numb."

"Yeah, you lot've been saying that."

"That screen is double."

"Yes, yous've been saying that too."

"What happened?"

Stanley cocked his head to the side similar a confused canis familiaris and considered my question — or at least, I figured he was considering it. Maybe he was worried about me. Maybe my well-being concerned him.

"What practise you retrieve?" he asked me.

"You moved your stuff into my room." I knew this had happened, even though I hadn't realized information technology a moment before. Only I remembered that detail and I knew I knew him. In what capacity? His claim to exist my young man didn't feel right — it couldn't have been romantic. Wasn't I just doing him a favor?

His already round, wide optics widened further. He pursed his lips and diverted his gaze.

"You allowed me to move into your apartment temporarily." Stanley paused. "That's the final thing you lot retrieve? And you don't remember what you had been doing that day?"

"What twenty-four hours?"

Stanley permit out a huff of air in exasperation. He shook his head in exaggerated impatience, rolling his eyes.

"The day you and Cassie climbed a redwood near the trailer park and you brutal 25 feet out of it."

According to my mother, in the early on days of my hospitalization, every time Stanley entered my infirmary room and appear himself to the doctors and nurses as my swain, I threw out an arm in a warped imitation of Vanna White and exclaimed, "I judge I have a young man now." Cue Pat Sajak chortling good-naturedly.

Information technology came back to me early on, distinctly, that he had never wanted to be my swain earlier this.

Merely whenever I broached the subject, Stanley told me he hadn't known what he wanted earlier, only uncertain of whether I would live or die, he became enlightened of how he felt. My skepticism remained even as my memory wavered.

Notwithstanding, he showed up each day, and I began to believe him when he said his feelings had changed. Trapped in my bed and visited by therapists I only partially knew and family members I simply vaguely recognized, it was squeamish to accept someone else come see me and practice word puzzles in bed with me, even if I didn't always remember who he was right abroad.

Other friends of mine who came to see me in the hospital were wary of Stanley, but his insistence on his right to be in that location and his part in my life stifled any objections that fifty-fifty my all-time friend, Sam, thought to make. My mother and I had ever communicated infrequently most my romantic endeavors. Coping as best she could, she remained intoxicated nearly of the time I was in the infirmary and didn't question Stanley's version of events. Later, she said I seemed like I wanted him there.

When I was released from the infirmary, I couldn't walk without an arm crutch, and my memory was all the same far from intact. Santa Clara Medical Center insisted I leave in a wheelchair, and I was wheeled out to Stanley's car. He said we'd decided together that he'd move to San Diego with me. With no retentivity of the original conversation, I believed him, but I felt overwhelmed.

Following the seven-hour drive to Due north County San Diego, I told my mom I didn't want to live with him. And although Stanley repeatedly hinted he should stay at my parents' domicile, my mom put her foot down and said Stanley couldn't live with us.

So he got a recruiting job and a room nearby. On weekdays after getting off piece of work, he'd walk through the side gate without announcing he was coming. On one particular day in late autumn, ii months after my hospital stay, he came into the backyard while I skimmed letters on Facebook that I'd received as an inpatient.

I had been talking to our mutual friend, Cassie (I've changed her proper noun here, as well every bit Stanley'south), from college. We'd been exchanging messages on Facebook, and while looking at our conversation, I saw an older message she'd sent me, while I was in the hospital, which I had no retentiveness of.

"Cassie messaged me while I was in Santa Clara," I mentioned to Stanley, my eye still fixed on the screen. "I said you joked around, saying y'all hoped my memory stayed impaired, and she replied, 'Is there something he doesn't want you to call up?'"

I laughed. Stanley didn't.

"Why do you think that'south funny?" he demanded, pulling the laptop toward him. He didn't sit down down. "Why would you tell her that?" He shoved the laptop abroad and placed his easily on either side of his head. "Why would you say that to her?"

"Hey, relax," I grunted while using both the table and chair to pull myself to a continuing position. One time facing him, I added, "I don't run into what the problem is."

"You don't — you don't — " Livid, Stanley couldn't seem to express himself through his rage.

Instead of walking away or going within, I but stood and watched him stutter as his face flushed until he finally formulated words. And boy, what words they were.

"What is wrong with you?" he started. "Here I am, doing everything I tin to assistance you — sticking around when we idea you were going to die, staying when you were r*tarded, not leaving when we weren't sure if you'd get better. And I'yard here now even though — look at you." He paused to wave a paw from my curt hair to my bare feet.

Incapable of speaking, I retreated through the sliding drinking glass door into the kitchen. All of the words I wanted to say slithered through my listen, broken, asunder. But goose egg came from me.

"And you might be like this forever! And instead of telling Cassie how supportive I've been, you lot say that to her? Why couldn't you lot accept told her how good I've been to you — trying to make yous wait similar less of a mess, getting your pilus cutting, taking you to get your confront waxed because it was icky."

Equally he spoke, he encroached on my space, stepping forward until his face was less than a few inches from mine. His easily all the same flapped in the air to either side; I think he may take wanted to grab me by the shoulders but refrained. It wasn't until he vibrated each hand on the left and right side of my face that I realized I was shaking also.

Stanley pulled his hands back, made a noise that sounded like a mixture of an exasperated moan and a frustrated yelp. Finally, he stomped out of my parents' kitchen similar a schoolboy suffering a tantrum. All I heard next was the gate slamming behind him.

Subsequently, he pretended we'd never had that interaction — I just brought it up once in the post-obit days, and he insisted he didn't know what I was referring to.

One thousandore than two years before I woke upwardly disoriented in the hospital, it was the beginning of my "junior" school year at the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC). All of the out-of-town transfer students over the age of 22 were corralled on the outset floor of the transfer dorm. That dorm became a haven for all of us who had spent our post-high school years not attention college. Merely we had finally pulled together those community college units to proceeds admittance to a four-year school. And by God, we were celebrating.

Cue the night after we all moved in: Everyone left their dorm doors propped open and flitted from room to room, taking a shot hither, nabbing a plastic cup of our hallmate Cassie's homemade wine in that location. Everyone except me. Stationed at the school-supplied prefab wooden desk-bound underneath my bunk bed sans bottom bunk, I was drinking whiskey and playing music from a USB-continued speaker.

"Anyone dislike Tom Waits?" I shouted in the general direction of the bodies amassed in my room. "All right, well, that's what we're gonna listen to now."

Among the gyrating bodies, a brusk guy in a blueish baseball game cap, brim pushed upwardly jauntily, slid forrard with an elbow pointing at me. He looked too young to exist drinking.

"I like Tom Waits," he offered. "I'1000 Stanley."

"Let me guess," I snapped, "y'all similar Pelting Dogs. That'southward fine 'n all, merely we're going to heed to some real lamentable shit right now."

Later, Stanley would divulge his first impression of me: feet up on my desk, pugging whiskey straight from the canteen and ranting to him nigh Tom Waits. He thought I was a bitch. And I would tell him that I thought he was a disrespectful asshole. That didn't stop him, later our initial meeting, from borer on my dorm door every twenty-four hour period, asking if I wanted to become walk in the woods or mountain biking. And information technology didn't stop me from taking a swig of my ever-present whiskey and replying, "Sure."

We weren't together, only we weren't not together. Before we slept together, Stanley spent all of his time with me and stopped seeing all of the other women he had been involved with. Past the terminate of that outset semester, nosotros had slept together multiple times, met each other'south family unit at Thanksgiving, and nevertheless not talked about what, exactly, we were doing. At the fourth dimension, I didn't think a chat was necessary; I figured nosotros had a gentleman'southward agreement and were on the same folio: sectional simply unserious.

Although we lived on the same hallway, Cassie and I weren't peculiarly close outside of the companionship provided by a common pastime: drinking. At the end of that year in the transfer dorm together, we all dispersed. Cassie moved into UC Santa Cruz'southward on-campus trailer park — the 1 I'd fall out of a tree next to, a yr later — and I constitute a room in an old Victorian on Mission, not far from Laurel Street and downtown.

Part of me figured Stanley wouldn't skulk around my door anymore, since we no longer lived a few feet away from each other. But sure enough, he ended up in a sublet off of Laurel Street and would rap on my window from the front porch, softening his big brown eyes when I pulled back the blinds to see who it could be.

One day, Stanley, now sitting by that window at the computer chair and desk my sublet provided, broached a conversation nosotros had never touched upon before, one I ever avoided with anybody: acquaintances, bar patrons, friends — whatever Stanley was.

"How did you lose your virginity? I remember when I lost mine … "

For the life of me, if you asked me how Stanley lost his virginity, I wouldn't be able to tell you anything about information technology. I stopped listening after his initial question.

"Are you OK?"

Stanley'due south genial curiosity defenseless me off guard.

"Yeah, I was just … thinking."

"Yous don't look OK." He came over and saturday next to me on the sublet's twin bed. A woods frame painted white housed a run-of-the-manufactory mattress, neither soft nor hard. Stanley peered into my optics incredulously, daring me to ostend what I could see him working out in his mind. So I did.

"It, uh, wasn't my choice."

"Exercise yous remember his proper noun?"

And I said it for the first time in virtually 10 years. I don't know how I wanted Stanley to react. I don't know what I wanted him to do — perhaps nod? Perchance inquire if I wanted a beverage? Oh, God, I wanted a drink. The previous night, I had polished off my bedside whiskey and hadn't had the chance to walk to the liquor store before Stanley popped over. But I know I didn't want him to do what he did.

Immediately, he bounded to the computer and opened Facebook.

"And this was in San Diego? OK, let me see."

So he began clicking on profiles and muttering to himself, "No, as well immature. Couldn't exist this 1. Hmm, new to the area — no. You don't know his terminal proper name?" Stanley glanced over at me and so stopped touching the computer.

At the fourth dimension, I didn't have the vocabulary, merely at present I can describe how I felt — dislocated, disoriented, overwhelmed. I heard the words, I understood them, but none of them stuck with me. It'south almost similar tunnel vision, but the contrary seems to happen — everything expands and your field of vision contains too much and none of it makes sense. Your eyes h2o because everything feels overexposed and lacks detail.

I didn't observe him rejoin me on the bed or when he took my limp hand from my lap and held information technology. But I did hear him when he said, "I think people place too much weight on a person'south sexual history."

And then he kissed me gently and we had sex, on a mattress that could have been hard or soft or just fine. Just it hadn't been dearest — he felt distressing for me. He insisted, afterward, that he cared about me, but he didn't want to exist together, couldn't be in a relationship. And I understood because, I felt, who would want to exist with me?

No one knew about this interaction, but I'grand sure the leeway I gave Stanley despite the boundaries he crossed — considering of his reaction to a truth I hated so much — looked like love.

In the months after I left the hospital, my memory slowly but surely came back to me. I remembered all of this, nearly how I met Stanley and what our relationship was similar earlier the accident. Merely I still had some questions. Some missing pieces — like how I could have let whatsoever of this happen.

"Icouldn't tell you before," said Cassie. "Because I idea you were in love with him. How could I tell you what Stanley had done?"

This conversation with Cassie took place before I fell out of the tree, and it came dorsum to me every bit I gradually regained my memory. Nearly seven months after leaving the dorms, we were sitting at an outdoor table on the patio of UCSC's Kresge Café, where nosotros often met to talk nearly the likes of Amiri Baraka or Jean Toomer for our verse course. It was well into our second yr at UCSC, our "senior year," that Cassie and I began hanging out consistently and (relatively) sober; Cassie had an elective slot open, and I suggested she accept a poetry class with me.

Cassie rubbed her left arm with her right hand but kept her optics on mine.

It happened on Memorial Day Weekend when nosotros all nevertheless lived in the transfer dorms, she said. Only a piffling over one-half of a year earlier our meeting at the Kresge Café. Memorial Mean solar day had been a transfer dorm hallmate'southward birthday and everyone had gone to Cowell'south Beach to celebrate — everyone except me. They left earlier I returned from — where had I been? I don't know. Drunk somewhere. Like ever.

Cassie described a beach bonfire. But and then she and Stanley had run into the wood to observe firewood. She described Stanley slinging his arm around her cervix, the aforementioned way he did to me. Cassie hadn't found this foreign, and I didn't call up she would — when he did this to me, I felt more than similar a "bro" than a romantic partner. It was when she fell down that things changed.

She described them losing balance and toppling over a log. And then she told me Stanley started ripping downwardly her pants and putting his oral cavity on her … I can't go there again.

"I told him to stop and he did." Her voice trailed off as if, mayhap, she should alibi him for the initial violation since he was and so good at post-obit instructions afterwards.

"I am … and so fucking angry — "

"This is why I didn't want to tell you," Cassie whispered. "I didn't want y'all to hate me."

"No, no, no, no, no." The word tumbled out of my mouth and wouldn't finish. "No, no, no." Maybe if I said it enough, she'd know. "Non with you lot — you lot did zip incorrect — with him. With him. He'south a fucking monster."

And I hated myself. Because I had been awake, drunk but awake, when they returned. Anybody else clambered upstairs to proceed the political party, but Stanley pulled me into his room and into his bed. Afterward what he had washed.

When Cassie told me all of this, Stanley had been studying abroad for months. Neither of us had heard from him in that time. I heard from other mutual friends he had a girlfriend of sorts.

A month after Cassie's revelation, Stanley commented on the UCSC trailer park's public page, a community Cassie was a part of, and received a harrowing response from a friend of Cassie's: We'd rather non have any sexual assaulters in our community, thanks.

Which, of course, caused Stanley to phone call me — the first time in ix months we'd had whatsoever contact.

"What is she saying about me?" he shrieked.

"Not really sure who or what yous're talking virtually."

"Don't play fucking dumb: Cassie. It was an accident. I stopped. What is she telling people?"

I sighed and tried to keep an even tone. "Whatever happened, it obviously acquired her more harm than you thought."

"You were raped," Stanley responded. It sounded more similar an accusation than a comment; it felt more like an accusation.

I didn't answer, and he continued. "You know what real assail is like. You need to tell her. Call her right now and make sure y'all tell her. You accept to tell her what it's actually like — that, what was his name? That the construction worker came into your room and held you downward and told you not to scream and forced his fucking — "

"Hey, hey, hey now." I didn't need the play-by-play. "I get it, I get information technology. Jesus."

And because information technology'due south easier to shove your injure onto someone else than addressing the bleeding parts inside yourself, I called Cassie and did the worst thing I've ever done in my life: I told her it could accept been worse.

"Cassie," my vox croaky as I told her everything and then said, "What Stanley did was inappropriate, but he stopped."

I n the months following my coma, these memories returned to me in sporadic waves. I remembered, so I convinced myself I must be misremembering, I must be wrong. Stanley would tempest out whenever I brought up the past, just to return the following day like null had happened, which made things fifty-fifty more confusing.

Merely I finally called Cassie toward the end of January 2016, five months later I had moved dorsum to San Diego. I wish I could say I had mustered the backbone a month earlier, as shortly every bit I realized at that place was something Stanley didn't want me to remember, merely how could I peradventure tell her I remembered, that it had come back to me, and Stanley was all the same here?

"Cassie?" I asked quietly when a voice answered the phone. I stood in the backyard of my parents' house, the merely identify I could be alone.

"Brooke! It's so good to talk to you. How have you been? What happened?"

I told her everything: Santa Clara, Stanley, not knowing exactly what had happened.

"I called Stanley equally soon as the ambulance took you away," Cassie said slowly, "I figured he would have contacted your family. The hospital had to find your parents' information? Why didn't Stanley phone call your parents?"

A foreboding sensation crept into my gut and my skin became common cold and clammy. It was overcast, typical January weather in San Diego, but far from cold.

"That night," she said, "we had made it to the top, at least 85 anxiety up, and y'all were actually confident — we were joking around — and then suddenly y'all looked at me and told me, 'I take to get down. Now.' So y'all sped down, and I call up climbing to a lower branch before you fell is what saved your life."

"And," I started and then stopped to moisten my mouth — information technology had gone dry — and eased myself down to sit down on the concrete patio. "That'southward all that happened?"

"Well," Cassie added, "I did recall it was weird when I heard Stanley was nevertheless with you in San Diego. Earlier nosotros climbed the tree that dark, you were telling me how much you hated him. You had him buy a plane ticket back home in front of yous to exist sure he was actually leaving. He had but moved all of his shit into your room afterwards his lease ended, and you wanted him gone."

"Cassie," I replied weakly.

"Well, it's skilful the two of you have worked things out. It was just, y'know, weird."

Information technology was true; my misgivings hadn't been unwarranted.

Stanley and I had been involved, but information technology was long over, and — as usual — Stanley used me right when I thought I was rid of him. When he came back from studying abroad, he stayed with me for almost a week and insisted I mediate a conversation betwixt him and Cassie. (I did, and she said she wasn't going to press charges.) He found his own identify, but then when the spring quarter ended and his sublease was upward, he moved all his shit into my room; I protested just he insisted. I kept telling him that he needed to just go home, but he connected to insist, over and again, that he needed to stay to make sure "Cassie wasn't going to do annihilation."

I still have no retention of the night I fell out of the tree, but Cassie told me I had made him purchase a plane ticket in front of me to be sure that he would exit.

After last our phone call, I remained seated on the ground exterior. I felt stupid; I was stupid. Stanley had been convincing me he was doing me a favor, that I needed him. When actually, he needed me. All the same paranoid about what had happened with Cassie and his reputation, he had been using me to convince everyone he was a good person.

Aweek after my call with Cassie, I was blistering cookies. Remembering the recipe, the measurements, the order I needed to mix the ingredients, exercising my fine-motor skills to mix them — it was all good practice. It was all rehabilitating, my occupational therapist told me.

Next to the kitchen sink, my mom swirled a glass of champagne and said, almost as if she were channeling it from another plane, "Three days into your coma, Stanley told me we should pull the plug on you."

Above the basin of sugar and butter, my hands held a jar of peanut butter and an overlarge spoon, motionless. I stopped to look at her, closing 1 middle to combat the double vision the damage to my occipital lobe had acquired.

My mom averted her eyes as she added, "And he would sit forever and try to guess the code to your telephone — he was desperate to get into it." Then she shrugged. "But y'all seemed like you wanted him around …"

"When I was in a blackout?" I asked.

My mom ignored this and said, "Stanley told me he knew yous and knew what you lot'd want."

Even knowing this, knowing my life had been disposable to him, I was as well weak of a person to make him leave. Stanley kept coming by my parents' house every 24-hour interval, telling me I should stop focusing on rehabilitating my mind and should instead make my concrete advent more than appealing. Often, he'd drop me off at walk-in waxing salons, instructing them to make my face smooth, "less disgusting."

"I only want to be able to call up again," I'd whisper after.

"This is probably the all-time you're going to become," he'd reply. "Yous need to take amend care of yourself. You have a lot of competition."

This obsession with outward aesthetics culminated in him taking me to Calaveras Mountain, a small mountain in east Carlsbad, and bidding me to run to the top.

"My physical therapist said I shouldn't exercise any strenuous exercise without her … my body still tin can't regulate temperature."

Stanley shot me a look of disdain and hissed, "My stepdad is a physiatrist — I know what I'm talking well-nigh. I guess y'all don't really want to get better."

Halfway upwardly Calaveras, my double vision separate fifty-fifty further — something I didn't think was possible — and I felt bile rising in my esophagus. Taking a genu, I put both hands onto the dirt-covered path and threw upwards.

"My dad was never easy on me," Stanley solemnly whispered, a bizarre explanation for his actions.

Nosotros walked the rest of the manner down.

"I think I need to go," Stanley finally said i twenty-four hours.

"Do whatsoever yous need to do," I responded.

Nosotros were sitting at a Thai eatery in a strip mall. Across the way, I had briefly worked as a hostess in a restaurant when I was newly 18; they tore it down and built a Reddish Lobster in its place.

"Y'all're not upset?" He searched my face. "Would yous want to stay together? You'd miss me."

I wondered who he was trying to convince.

"Aye, we can stay together … even though you tried to impale me."

Stanley reeled back every bit if he had just been slapped. His feminine lips parted and his bottom jaw hung open, balked.

Stanley, enraged, knocked over his tea. Information technology had been almost empty. The outrage felt performative; the spill theatrical. I was get-go to go a headache; I only wished someone would exist honest with me — my mom, Stanley, anyone who had been there. Everyone wanted to protect themselves at my expense. I felt like a child every time the thought "But what nigh me?" sprang into my head.

"I just meant if information technology got to that point — if you lot were going to be brain dead." His hands flailed and his lips flapped as they always did when he tried to make a indicate. I'd finally settled on Beaker — he looked like Chalice from the Muppets. "If you were brain dead, your mom would simply proceed you forever in a dorsum room drooling all over yourself! Look at you lot at present — y'all don't even have your ain bed and they've been taking your inability money for months."

That was sort of true; once I had been established as disabled by Social Security, they started dispensing $775 a month to me, an corporeality based on my previous W-2s and piece of work history. Merely I chose to requite it to my parents — the insurance had covered the majority of the medical costs, but my mother had racked up hotel bills staying in San Jose. I handed the provided debit card for my disability benefits to my father and said, "For everything I've washed."

As I explained this, Stanley's mouth quivered in a dumbstruck "O." Simply his horror and confusion only infuriated me; I had told him all of this earlier. He knew this — or should have. Did he ever mind to me?

"And did you say that?" I shot back, restraining myself, just barely.

"Say what?"

"'If it got to that point?'"

"I didn't need to. That's patently what I meant."

Stanley left the same week.

He telephoned me in February 2017, more than a twelvemonth afterward.

By this time, I had finished my available's degree by taking my remaining classes at UC San Diego, and I'd started working seasonal shifts every bit a production assistant at an academic publishing company. I took the train to piece of work by myself. An eye surgery had corrected my double vision, and I no longer needed to shut one eye or wear a patch to see. On paper, I appeared to be a legitimate, operation adult, and no one asked well-nigh my abnormal gait or inability to write by hand.

Uncertain if I should answer Stanley's phone call, I watched his name manifest on my prison cell phone screen and blink away when I didn't impact it. A month afterward — I don't know if curiosity gripped me or if I hoped for an explanation, or at least an amends — I called him back.

"I was surprised to meet you calling," Stanley said past manner of greeting. "I took mushrooms and went to a actually dark place and called you because I knew y'all'd brand me feel improve. Do you think I'm OK?"

"What practise you lot mean?"

"Cassie."

"For someone who didn't do anything wrong, you certainly are acting like y'all did something wrong."

"Fuck, Brooke, I didn't practice anything!"

"You lot ripped her pants downwards — "

"I DIDN'T RIP HER PANTS DOWN. I PULLED THEM Down."

"Did you unbutton them?"

"What?"

"Did you unbutton her pants?"

"I don't know. What the fuck does that thing?"

"Information technology does matter. It all matters. Yous've tortured me for over 2 years — do you realize that? Cassie told you lot two months before my accident that what you did was fucked upwards, but she wasn't going to do anything castigating. And then — and then — you lot lied to my family and friends, maxim you were my boyfriend to paint some sort of sympathetic narrative for some made-up state of affairs you thought you lot were in — something that wasn't existent. Simply what happened to me was existent. Everything — my whole life — my whole life. And my whole life meant zero to yous … y'all — "

"Wow," Stanley interrupted in amazement. "Your speaking — your speech is really expert. You could barely string together a sentence before. Y'all — "

"You!" I roared back. "Y'all stressed me out all of the time. You interrupted me. You yelled at me until I shook. I — " My voice cracked. I felt — all at once — I felt pain. Regret. Shame. Remorse. "In the fourth dimension you've been out of my life, I've made such improvements," I continued in a near whisper, "… amazing improvements … if you had never been effectually … if y'all hadn't forced your style into my recovery … " I trailed off.

"Y'all can't put that on me — I was going through something — "

"No." Information technology was resolute enough to make Stanley autumn silent. "You went through aught. You did something very wrong to Cassie. And me — yous probably stunted the progress I could have made. I'll never know. Goodbye, Stanley."

Cassie doesn't hate me, only she should. At least that's how I feel about it.

We were able to run across each other in person in 2017, then we talked on the phone in the summer of 2019. She's doing well, despite everything, and understands the emotional manipulation Stanley employed to proceed me nether his thumb. She'south given me grace I'm not yet ready to give myself.

I don't know where Stanley is or what he's chosen to practice with his life. I hope he's washed some self-reflection, but I doubtfulness he has. The hold rape civilization has on us all makes it well-nigh impossible for genuine self-reflection to occur in these types of men.

My physical deficits are still an everyday part of my life, but I've come up to accept my disability. Ironically, the trauma of my accident, recovery, and new identity as a disabled person pales in comparison to the furnishings of Stanley'due south subversive presence. I'thousand suspicious of all romantic partners and don't trust the motives anyone purports to take. I'm distrustful and resentful. I get to therapy to discern which parts of my skepticism are warranted and which are pure paranoia. Even when I know, am painstakingly shown the truth, it doesn't feel real or genuine.

Despite this, I've developed a tenuous romantic relationship — perchance the word "situation" is more accurate — with an onetime friend who lives on the other side of the country. I think this is all I'k capable of, and right now, it's all I want. Maybe that'll change, simply for now, I'k grateful for my cognitive capabilities, the bulldoze to stay sober, and the lack of responsibility for someone else's emotional stability — maintaining my own is quite plenty.

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